A happy and easy life doesn’t require a lot of mantras. Neither does it require thousands of conditions that we usually put up in our head. Sometimes, an easy and satisfying life comes by letting things go. Although I was also holding on so many things, which I thought were making me better and powerful, letting them go was like getting rid of a heavy bag. The inner want to have a picture perfect relationship, winning every single competition and pleasing everyone around me seemed like a burden unless I took it off my shoulders.
The quote of Eckhart which states
‘Sometimes letting things go is an act far greater power than defending or hanging on’ is truly inspirational. So, I won’t tell you what you can do to be happy in this blog but vice versa. You ready?
Things That I’ve Let Go For Happier Life
1. I’ve Let Go Of Judging Anyone
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
So far, I learnt that my job is to focus on my life, my aspirations and my journey. Even though I was judging people earlier, I was also bothering myself with unnecessary thoughts that somewhere had a negative impact on my life. Before even thinking about what kind of person he or she is, now my focus is what kind of person I am and if I can be better.
2. I’ve Let Go Of Assuming What Others Are Thinking Or Feeling
“I found that my unquestioned assumptions were the cause of all war and all peace in my world.”- Byron Katie
Thinking what others are thinking is not what I do anymore. After all, I am not them! Assumptions like the boy is not talking to me because of his arrogance or my coworker never finishes his job because of low confidence could all be false. So, I let go of imagining things in my head and rather speak to people with an open heart.
3. I’ve Let Go Of Running After Happiness
“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.”
Whenever I used to put a condition in front of my happiness, even happiness turned back. I used to think that I will be happy only when I have a luxury car or I will be happy only when my partner will get me a bunch of flowers. But this projection was so false.
It is because happiness lies in the tiniest of the things where you can feel comfortable. In fact, the moment you are reading this blog is also pleasant, just feel it. If you had a good meal, have a roof on your head, internet connection and some good songs, it is no less than a blessing.
4. I’ve Let Go Of Pleasing Others
“I can’t tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”- Ed Sheeran
I wouldn’t lie but there were so many things that I did to get a validation from someone else or please them. But when I realized that such actions were not providing me love and content to the soul, I learned to let it go. My life is about my choices and I can’t help it if these choices worry other people. It could be their false expectations probably!
5. I’ve Let Go Of Thinking About The Past & Worry About Future
“People who think about the past have no future.”
Can you travel back the time and change your past? Can you control what will happen in the future? After diving into both the scenarios personally, I ended up overthinking. While learning to let things go, I understood that worrying about things that you cannot control is your mistake. So, enjoy the present moment, become mindful and embrace the flow of life!
6. I’ve Let Go Of Meeting Toxic Or Fake Friends
“Letting go of toxic people is a major step in truly loving myself.”
Not all friends are good friends, believe me! Good friends are those who help you with your brighter path and motivate you in your hard times. But if they are constantly dragging you down, it’s time to say goodbye. Yes, learn how to end a toxic friendship and move on!
7. I’ve Let Go Of Procrastination
“The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started.”
‘I will do this later on. I am in no mood today.’ might look comfortable for a day or two but the burden is huge as the deadline is near. After failing in semester exams due to procrastination, I decided to not to repeat the mistake and let the procrastination go off.
Even if you are not able to complete some work today, promise a deadline to yourself and get it done by then!
8. I’ve Let Go Of Grudges
“Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.”
Learning to forgive and move on is an art but the moment you learn it, life becomes peaceful. All the negative energy associated with the past moments or an individual is released and the results are happier relationships, healthy heart, self-esteem, and overall improved personality. If you haven’t tried letting go of the grudges, now is the time.
9. Let It Go!
Holding on to some of the toxic things is like holding thorns when the rose petals are blowing away. So, try to let go all those things that might not look harmful at the moment but their departure is just peaceful. Challenge yourself to let a few things from the list go and share your experiences in a few days with me in the comment section below.
